One of the biggest take aways from coming to the Experience Counts program was realising that it is ok to say no when I do not want to do something. It has helped me with my personal
boundaries. The workshop on Assertiveness taught me to say no without offering an explanation and to make sure that I stick to it. Other tips for learning to say no from the workshop include:

1. Give yourself permission- Remember that it’s okay to say ‘no’.
2. Say ‘no’ positively- Turn down the request in a positive tone. For example, “I would love to help, but I have already made other commitments.”
3. Be honest -Don’t search for or invent an excuse. If you can, say why you are refusing; if not, simply say ‘no.’
4. Refuse the request, not the person-Be specific about what it is you are saying ‘no’ to.
5. Be timely- Do not hesitate; be quick, direct, and succinct.
6. Find a suitable medium.- Saying ‘no’ in person is usually preferable, but occasionally, the best option is by phone, email, or text message.
7. Explain why- When people refuse to accept your ‘no’ or keep pushing, explain why you are saying ‘no.’ The reason may have little value to the other person, so remember that it is important to you.
8. Commit to ‘no.’- If the other person is overly persistent, clarify that you are committed to your refusal. For example, “I have already decided that I can’t do that. Trying to push me will not change my decision.”